A Love That Lets Go

Read Mark 6:1-12

“O Jerusalem, Jerusalem, the city that kills the prophets and stones God’s messengers! How often I have wanted to gather your children together as a hen protects her chicks beneath her wings, but you wouldn’t let me. And now, look, your house is abandoned and desolate.” (Matthew 23:37-38 NLT)

Letting GoHave you ever had to make decisions on behalf of someone you love that you really, really didn’t want to make? As a parent, there are times that I have had to make decisions that had eaten me alive in the process of making them. For anyone who has been a parent, or has been responsible for someone else, you probably know exactly what I am talking about. Ever parent wants their kids to love them, every parent longs for their children to look up to them, to respect them, but also be close to them. The problem is that, by virtue of having the responsibility of parenthood, there are times that parents have make decisions, and take certain courses of action, in order to do what is right for their children…BECAUSE THEY LOVE THEM. Those decisions often come with consequences, such as the children not “liking” their parents and/or feeling sorry for themselves, which can only go to make the parent feel even worse for having to make the dreaded decision. With that said, it was the RIGHT thing for the parent to do.

One of the hardest thing for parent to do, one of the things that goes against a parent’s very fiber, is the decision and the act of letting their child go. In fact, that is not just a hard thing for parents to do, is it? That seems to be a universally hard thing for many people to do. Whether they are parents, siblings, family, or friends, it is hard for people to let the ones they love go; however, there are times when LOVE demands that one do just that. This perhaps is the most painful, and yet the most radically profound, act of love.

Letting go is an act of love that God knows very well. After all, God created this world and all that is in it, and God did so out of love. In that love, God created human beings in order to have a relationship with them. God gave them everything and tried to guide them to a life that was good for them; however, out of love God also gave them the freedom to choose and boy did humanity choose…not God, but themselves. So God let them go; God let them make their choices, regardless of whether they were good or bad.

That’s not to say that God completely stepped away, because God did try and intervene in order to get people to remember their relationship with their Creator. God even sent God’s own son in order to show people how much God loved them, yet the people either didn’t understand it, or they chose to reject it. That was their choice and, in that choice, God let them go. Even when they chose to torture, whip, and crucify God’s Son, God chose to let them go. Why? Why would God do such a thing? Because God loved humanity that much that God was willing let them go.

While it is not easy, God is calling us to do the same. As much as we want to control the relationships we are in, as much as we want everyone to love us and to understand how much we love them, as much as we want our relationships to remains strong and happy, the reality is that some will inevitably deteriorate and fall apart. We should try to mend those relationships if possible, we should try to reconcile ourselves with our family, friends and neighbors (if at all possible and regardless of whether we were in the right or wrong); however, if the door to reconciliation continually comes swinging shut, at some point we need to love the person and/or the people enough to let them go. Why? Because love demands that we do. Because in love for us, God has let us go. Letting someone go does not mean giving up on them, it simply means that you love them enough to let them choose to love, or not love you…no matter how painful that is. This Lent, I pray that, in those necessary moments, God gives you the grace and the strength to express your love for others through the act of letting them go.

“Some of us think holding on makes us strong; but sometimes it is letting go.” – Hermann Hesse
Lord, help me to know when it is time to hold on and when it is time to let go of the ones I love. Give me the strength to do so. Amen.

2 thoughts on “A Love That Lets Go”

  1. I loved this devotional so much and it hits the core of my being!
    Letting go or what I usually think is “stepping aside” and still loving them in the process is definitely a very hard thing to do because our nature is to want to help and take care for that person/persons. By letting go you, are actually allowing God to do his work in us as well as them without our own interference. You actually love and trust God so much that you don’t want to be in the way of God’s healing process. In the meantime, during the process of healing on both sides, we should never be judgemental toward the other party(s) and always pray and ask for forgiveness by God. Because we are forgiven by God, we will show God’s wonderful GRACE with our open hearts and open arms toward people who have hurt us. I call it tough love! An extremely strong love to be able to let go and let God take over for the betterment of God’s healing process to mend the heart(s) together. If both parties involved would trust Godand ask Him forgive them personally for their own sins committed without blaming the other for their own wrongdoings, then both parties would mend their differences and see the good in each other, like God wants us to do! Not one of us on the face of this earth can say to themselves that they are perfect and don’t sin. I know I am not perfect, that’s for sure. What is so amazing to me is that when I ask God to forgive me, He not only forgives me but He also forgets my sins as well. He embraces me with His love and understanding….like I receive a great bid hug! I have also found that God’s love does not hold grudges, hatred, or judgement and God has no limits, expectations or conditions that we have to abide by in order to be forgiven or loved. He loves us and forgives us unconditionally. By His example, we should do the same and have no excuses not to! FORGIVE AND FORGET MUST BE #1 …. with no exceptions! FORGIVENESS is ESSENTIAL! It promotes PEACE!

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